Should BKs or PBKs care about ex-BKs

[bansy]

As a BK or PBK, should you care about ex-BKs or exPBKs ? What advice can you give ex-BKs ?

Do you think it is right for an ex-BK for be incensed about their time as a BK or a PBK ?

Or do you think everyone has their own choice in life, ultimately it is their own choice ?

[bansy]

As a BK or PBK, should you care about ex-BKs or exPBKs ? What advice can you give ex-BKs ?

I think BKs and PBKs should care about ex-BKs and exPBKs, but they can only offer the same care as they would to anyone else. In that respect, it would also concur that ex-BKs should also care about BKs and PBKs.

Do you think it is right for an ex-BK for be incensed about their time as a BK or a PBK ?

Whilst it can be painful to leave anything after some period of time, there is little use in blaming the past and blaming others, whatever the reasons are. Each person is playing the role they are given, and one cannot change the role of the past but to play the role as of current and future. One must take the stenghts from their history to move forward andnot carry the burden of bad history and thoughts with them as it will outweigh their progress.

Or do you think everyone has their own choice in life, ultimately it is their own choice ?

Choices are made every minute of your life. You make the best choice given any situation you are in as you play your role in the best way you are in. A number of parameters come into play when it comes to making choices, but no-one can can make that choice other than you. You have always chosen what was right but if you think you have chosen wrong, then who made the choice in the first place. Sometimes pain comes in making errors in choices, but that is also the choice made.

By removing labels, and giving love and respect to anyone who comes, none of the above matter. Water makes no judgement on who drinks it or where it flows, the raindrop falls where it was meant to fall, and the sun shines on everyone's face regardless of where or who they are.

[arjun]

As a BK or PBK, should you care about ex-BKs or exPBKs ? What advice can you give ex-BKs ?

Yes, as a human being. I won't give them any advice but will wish them well. Of course, they are welcome anytime to contact me as a human being or as a PBK. I have contacts with all kinds of souls - ex-BKs; ex-PBKs (who have gone back to lead a lokik life); ex-PBKs (who have gone to other parties); PBKs (who have gone back to BKs); ex-PBKs (who still go to BK centers with or without the knowledge of the BKs); BKs (who got married against the wishes of the organization) etc.

Do you think it is right for an ex-BK for be incensed about their time as a BK or a PBK ?

No.

Or do you think everyone has their own choice in life, ultimately it is their own choice ?

Yes. And I respect their decision.

[bansy]

I respect their decision.

But ex-BKs do not respect the decisions of others.

The lesson about respect is that if you give respect to others regardless of the other party's situation, then you will have maintained self respect. When an ex-BK is unable to respect their own decision of having become an ex-BK and feel they are a failure in oneself, then they have little respect about anything else, they have distrust of the rest anyone else who they come into contact, they go furthermore into losing self respect.

I find that ex-BKs are not having a grudge againt BKs or PBKs, but the have simply lost trust in themselves because nothing meets their own expectations. Then they seek justification for their current situation, but they will not gain the trust. In the movie, Red Cliff, which is another war movie, one party was weak but had the trust amongst its generals even though the generals were from rival opposing armies that came together to form an alliance, to fight another party who had all the strength and manpower but whose warlord leader made no trusts bonds amongst his generals. Whatever the latter leader did, there was no trust amongst the generals as he continued to hold grudges over a long period of time. He never learns to love, to trust , to have self respect, to understand the power of control, and thus loses himself and the battle and is eventually defeated and isolated. Because he remains blinded by his own selfish and past actions. Even though he has all the potential of becoming a great leader. The physical is overturned by the lack of spiritual power.

That is the danger that some ex-BKs face. Some ex-BKs even assume that BKs no longer "send them any good wishes" as if they (ex-BKs) are banded together in such an esteem group of individuals who need special attention. Yet BKs send everyone good wishes, irregardless of what groups of individuals. This is one example of how ex-BKs are troubled, they blame their own situation on a situation which they got themselves into and expect their life to be resolved by someone elses's hands but they knowingly know it was and still is in their own hands. Unacceptable for their past. they try to justify that their own failings to be the same for many others and so it is right, but all that is happening is an accumulation of failure feelings. Yet it all simple to resolve, love your past.

However, this is the role of some ex-BKs. They are here for a reason and they help all others to realise that the past is the past. The ex-BKs who finally come to realise their roles eventually find success and worth in their lives and maintain harmony with BKs and PBKs who may even be some of their own loved ones from their family. Those who remain stay proud to be ex-BKs do so to continue on the path of self destruction on themselves and other ex-BKs rather than self development of themselves. Some ex-BKs cannot even accept that some ex-BKs eventually make it out, jealous that othes can leave their proud group. Such ex-BKs become so obsessed, and just like the warlord in Red Cliff, have nothing to hold onto at the end as the world passes them by.

So BKs and PBKs can stretch a hand out to ex-BKs (as they do to others of course) but leave it to ex-BKs to find their trust in their own hands to accept it. Otherwise it is this fear (of the BKs) which will still remain for them.

Yes, as a human being. I won't give them any advice but will wish them well.

Yes, maybe the word advice here means support in this context.