Much of this problem is the instruction the early BK learns is: 'Do not give sorrow to anyone' as it stopped us from speaking our mind and coming into action when we should. I know many BK's who were terrified of speaking their mind when faced with abusive situations, people and experiences.ex-l wrote:Had I been centered and acting according to instinct, I would have known exactly what to do; scream, shouted even whacked him to pull over and stop. But the path that the BKs were encouraging me on was this very uncentered, spaced out, passive, impractical path. Basically, I was being taught and encouraged by people that did not have a clue about real life and how to live it, it was all "woo-woo" angels and spirituality. I was pretty much still in the Honeymoon Period.
In my case, these 'instructions' caused me to take emotional abuse from insecure and overpowering people at work over a long period of time. I did not know how to say 'NO' and speak up or stand up for myself, therefore I lived in a permanent state of sorrow and fear, but did not realise it at the time. Thank God, things have changed now.
Abuse is abuse, and whilst its great not causing so called 'sorrow' to any-one, the return side of this is that we were probably also abusing ourselves on deep emotional and mental levels. It is again another case of BK-isms ruling the subconcious in ways often not realised.
Power to the people I say.